It was this type of reasoning that helped me deal with the guilt shortly following my exodus from the JWs. I figured that I was a "good" person because I didn't lie, cheat, steal, murder, etc. I smoked a little pot and fornicated a bit, but who was that hurting? I finally came to the conclusion that if an angry god wanted to smoke me for hitting the Devil's Lettuce and making love to a woman that I cared deeply for, then so be it. Years later, I lost all belief in God whatsoever.
But you're right, destroying someone's life by DFing or DAing is one of the greatest evils ever, as is covering up and excusing abuse. Condemning someone for giving someone a Christmas present or eating a bowl of Lucky Charms is absolutely absurd considering the evil, hurtful deeds done daily by this diabolical organization.